By Lara Fielding | Tuesday, January 21, 2014
The “Passengers on the bus” metaphor was developed by Steven Hayes, who developed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). It is so useful for thinking about our internal experience (versus external), I use it from session 1 with clients. So, I will share it here......Imagine your life is like a bus. You are the driver of this bus. From the moment... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Wednesday, February 5, 2014
Change is not easy. We all have a tendency to behave in ways that do not serve us sometimes. If it were easy, we would not do all the many things we do that are bad for us. The reason is simple. Humans, like all animals, move towards what feels good, and move away from what feels bad. The link we make between X behavior and Y immediate outcome,... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Sunday, February 16, 2014
Another problem with our wonderful human mind is that thoughts can be very sticky! By sticky, I mean, we can experience thoughts, memories, and ideas in our minds as if they are actually happening. Psychologists call this “cognitive fusion.” When scientists scan the brains of people thinking certain thoughts, or recalling certain events, the areas... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Friday, February 28, 2014
Do you know what your triggers are? Can you name them right off the top of your head? Knowing the kinds of situations that are likely to activate an exaggerated reaction from you is an essential first step in Mindful-Mastery. Triggers are events or situations that activate an intensified emotional reaction in some individuals (but not all), due to... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Tuesday, March 11, 2014
Where the mind goes..... the mood follows! Future predicting can lead to anxiety. Rumination on the past, can lead to sadness.  So, the key to maintaining balanced mood is to hold non-judgmental attention in the present moment. Since minds time travel, and bodies don't, practice actively moving-holding attention in the body. Here’s how. Step I: ... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Wednesday, June 18, 2014
  The role of emotions and why we have them. Most people who come to skills training are looking for ways to increase positive emotions, and decrease the negative ones. Human beings, by design, want to feel good, and get rid of emotions that feel bad. But here's the deal, our system did not develop so that we can say, "Yeah, I don't really do... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Strategies are the things we do to minimize discomfort and obtain or hold on to pleasure. Short-term strategies are those that bring immediate gratification. Long-term strategies are those that bring longer, more enduring rewards, but require some discomfort in the short term. When short-term strategies are more prevalent than long-term, we... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Monday, July 14, 2014
We have all heard that depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders have an important “biological component.” But what does biological mean? A common misconception is that “biological” means “immutable” or “permanent.” In this blog, I would like to talk a bit about the bi-directional influence of biology and our mind-body vehicles. First, the... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Saturday, September 6, 2014
Emotion Regulation (and Dys-regulation) 101: Emotion Regulation happens when our thoughts-emotions-actions are in a balanced state. We are well regulated when we can respond to the demands of the environment, without reacting impulsively, or shutting down entirely. This is an optimal functioning of the holistic system of mind and body. Emotion DYS... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Sunday, September 14, 2014
Secondary Emotions: An emotion about an emotion The relationship, beliefs, and attitudes we have towards our emotional experience set us up for secondary emotions and emotion dysregulation. In the last blog (Emotion Regulation (Dys-Regulation) 101) we discussed how the emotion regulation system gets wired through our relationships early in life.... Read More