By Lara Fielding | Saturday, July 6, 2013
In teaching emotion regulation, a large part of session time tends to be dedicated to working on the Opposite Action skill for anger (see Opposite action post). Because this emotion can to lead to disruptive and unhelpful outcomes, it makes sense that we become highly invested in changing it. But (and I do mean but), our emotions are critically... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Sunday, September 8, 2013
What is the first thing that goes through your mind when you think of a silent retreat? Is the idea compelling? Repelling? Is it one of those, “that sounds like a good thing to do, but awful!” like running a marathon, or some other monumental task. I was more like the last camp.    As a teacher and student of Mindfulness practices and... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Tuesday, October 22, 2013
Success oriented culture prioritizes independence and self sufficiency as the optimal state of functioning. In an effort to be successful, we often buy into this belief full stop. But neuroscience is now showing us what our experience already did. Social connectedness, belonging, is as essential as any core need, and increasingly so for success in... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Tuesday, December 17, 2013
The Castle in the Village Metaphor: A simple picture of common relationship dynamics As we negotiate the often tumultuous, landscape of relationships (finding them, beginning them, maintaining them, and sometimes ending them) many psychology theorists have noted a common dynamic. A pattern of interaction seems to occur over and over in some people... Read More